I never really doubted SE endgame in the first 2.5 seasons. While I loved, loved, loved Damon and Delena interactions, it seemed to me the writing was pretty much on the wall that no matter what Stefan said or did, Elena was always going to go back to him or take him back. Especially after that stupid murder wall scene. At that point I was completely flummoxed that they would think something like that was romantic or that they would literally have their heroine not see just how wrong all of that was. It was clear to me (and others here) just how toxic and abusive that relationship is/was.
Then there were moments like “I want you to remember what you felt when he was gone” and “It’s right, just not right now” and DE wasn’t just possible anymore, it was endgame. Even after “Maybe that’s the problem”, I still believed — mainly because it was clear to me where they were going after the finale.
This season has just solidified it for me. Especially after Elena had her epiphany episode. She came out of that — having shed all the guilt and fear, doom and gloom, and those pesky suicidal tendencies that had haunted her for so long — a new person. And it was like she could finally see what/who was right in front of her. Like she was truly seeing Damon for the first time. And in seeing him, she simply didn’t want to let him go. Even if that meant losing Stefan. Which was a complete 180 from her ‘bestest decision ever’ only a few short episodes before.
Add to that, the careful and utter deconstruction of Stelena, Stefan’s true colors showing in too many ways and words to count, Stefan’s ability and desire to walk away for good and the fact that — despite the SB and everything else — they’ve been very careful not to destroy Delena (at least to me they haven’t), I can’t see anything else but DE endgame now.
I know some think that they’ve been tainted by the SB and that’s fine if you think that, but I honestly don’t doubt that Elena’s feelings for Damon are real. I think the show has been pretty clear on that point. The only ones that won’t accept it are some of the characters themselves. And I think that if they were going to use the SB to somehow bring Stelena back together, they wouldn’t have destroyed Stelena the way they have. They would have been much more careful to keep hope alive. Instead, they’ve done just the opposite — distracting the characters with the ‘unreality’ of Delena while literally taking Stelena apart brick by brick, scene by scene.
I can’t see Elena going back to him now. Not even if the SB somehow screwed with her emotions, which I don’t believe. He’s been way too shitty to her and she’s seen it this time. Beyond that, she has shown time and time again that she doesn’t want him as anything more than a friend. They’ve given a ton of opportunities for her to show that she misses him or is jealous of him being with someone else and each time, she’s sailed through the scenes without an ounce of emotion that one would expect — both before and after Off!Elena.
And as far as Off!Elena goes, her Stefan interactions have just driven it home so much more just how little affect he has on her (or potential affect). Damon is the one she puts effort into getting away from because she knows he can/will make her feel. And the interesting part about that? He really can do it without trying too hard. That was evident the past episode where his attempt to make her feel was lackluster at best, yet she couldn’t distance herself fast enough. And I actually found it humorous after an entire scene dedicated to Stefan’s beyond lame attempt to make her ‘feel’ by ‘touching’ her, that it was being held in Damon’s arms — in a non-romantic scene no less — that you could see the humanity in her. And yes, I know that fear played part in sparking her humanity, but Damon and Delena were all over that scene — from her calling out to him to the split second before Stefan vervained her.
So, call me DElusional or crazy or whatever, but I truly believe this will all shake out at the end of the day and everything everyone has been saying almost every episode will be proven so wrong they may not want to offer opinions again. I think Damon’s insecurities have been ramped up for the express purpose of giving him and the audience a huge pay off.
Elena will come out of this, stronger than ever because she’ll know who she is, what she wants, and who she wants to be. And as a result, I think Damon will be floored when she unequivocally, without the SB, ‘chooses’ him and shows him just how much she really, truly loves him.
Because Elena’s feelings are real. Damon is the best for her. And they are endgame.
I keep thinking about what Kevin Williamson said about Damon and Elena in season 1.
“…because of Damon’s feelings for Elena, thinking that, for the very first time in his life that he has a home.”
Elena is the one who helped Damon find his home and his home is Elena.
Home has been their theme for a long time now, the lyrics of some songs used on the show emphasize that Damon and Elena are each other’s home and that whoever they’re with (if it’s not each other) is something far away from home (see this gifset).
Also, let’s not forget the song “New York” by Snow Patrol that was first chosen to be the song for Damon and Elena’s first mutual kiss on Elena’s porch but the creators of the show had to change the music in that scene, so this song was played during Elena’s first “I love you” to Damon. The song is about two people who really love each other but can’t be together and its theme is home.
Then, there’s “Kiss Me” by Ed Sheeran that played during the Delena dance+sex scene in 4.07. The lyrics are about settling down, cuddling, giving warmth to one another and finally being together for good which gives me warm home-y feelings and associations.
Surely, there are some telling lines and moments. My favorite one is the hug scene in 2.12. Damon tells Elena to go home and she says she will and then she comes to him and hugs him. Or how about Elena saying that the boarding house is her home now too in 4.08 after sleeping with Damon? I can’t recall any other scenes like that but I’m certain there are more.
So, what’s it all about? Elena just turned her humanity off. The human feelings she had for Damon and that sired and anchored her to him are now off. Damon won’t be able to invoke the sire bond anymore. At least until Elena lets herself feel again. Damon will be helping Elena find her humanity again (just like Elena showed Damon that it matters in season 1) and it will have nothing to do with the sire bond because the bond won’t work. It will be the old-fashioned way full of struggle and angst. And moreover, it will be 100% real.
Elena turned her humanity off and she burned down her home (generally speaking), the place where she lived, the place that contained all of her memories, with all of the things that reminded her of the past, along with her journal and the memories that are “too important”. She has no home now and she’s lost. Metaphorically. Existentially.
I firmly believe it will all come full circle and Damon will be her home from now on.